By Gina Carbone
As the self-declared captain of Team Roberto, it’s very possible that I’m just reading into this because I want Ali Fedotowsky to pick Roberto Martinez and be engaged to him and have it be true that he’s moving to California to be with her.
This BuzzSugar interview makes me think maybe that’s true. Or partly true.
In Tahiti, Ali talked about how much she loves that Roberto makes her feel safe and protected.
(Her exact quote is “There’s something so incredible about having someone make you feel taken care of and protected. And Roberto makes me feel that way. He’s genuine and real and caring and he has a huge heart. He just radiates love and life. I think if I ended up with Roberto I would live a wonderful life and it would never be short of romance.”)
In this interview she talks about how she thought she wanted a goofy fun guy like Frank (or Chris Lambton, although she doesn’t say it) but it turns out what she needs is a “rock” … like Roberto.
I think her plan was to have it be Frank and Roberto in the final two. She just told E! the Frank incident did not affect her final decision. I figured this whole Ali chooses no one thing came out because Frank hurt her so much she wasn’t ready to risk her heart in the end, but it sounds like that’s not quite the case. It gives me more hope for a “surprise” Roberto engagement … even if it’s brief.
Or — I don’t want this to be true, but the FORTs are bringing it up — maybe Mike Fleiss is Fleissing us, not Reality Steve. Maybe he’s planting these Ali picks Roberto stories in the tabs to counteract Reality Steve. Maybe Steve is right? Again? God save us, I don’t think I can take that. His ego will just explode. It’s already in the red zone. Alas…
Anyway, I’m posting the BuzzSugar interview below. It gives me hope. Especially since Ali says she’s good at keeping secrets…
BuzzSugar: Was it difficult to watch this week’s episode with Frank again?
Ali Fedotowsky: I really did get emotional. I’ve been watching the shows and sort of reliving them, so to see myself that down is hard. Watching yourself cry is difficult! It just reaffirmed that I’m so much better off for him leaving. This whole time, I had always said to my producers that I knew Frank would hurt me at same point. He really made me feel insecure throughout the thing, and I said to him, ‘My relationship with you scares me.’ I’m positive that I would not have ended up with Frank in the end, because I wouldn’t have been able to commit to someone who scared me that much.
Buzz: You said it was hard to see yourself. Do you get critical of yourself on TV?
AF: Oh gosh, yes. I’m always so hard on myself for things that I do and say. My hair is always a mess, and everyone has noted. But what can I do? I just have to go with it.
Buzz: Last night we saw the overnight dates — are they as awkward as they look?
AF: So awkward! I shouldn’t even say awkward, but you don’t know what people are expecting. Because I’m offering a guy an overnight date card, that doesn’t mean we’re going to go in the room and take all of our clothes off and get into bed! Yes, I’m giving him an overnight card, but I am not the type of girl to be with one guy, and then a minute later be with another guy. I would never do that. Ever. It’s not what people think it is. I don’t know that I’m even necessarily ready to sleep next to a guy one night and then another guy the next night.
Buzz: Even so, it seems like you guys were almost set up by the producers to take off your clothes, because you had to walk in waist-deep water to get to your fantasy suite!
AF: [laughs] I guess I should say I didn’t have much problem taking Roberto’s shirt off!
Buzz: We didn’t have a problem with it either! So after spending time with these guys, what have you learned that people can apply to their own dating lives?
AF: I always thought that — and people might disagree with this, honestly — but I always thought that the guy that was right for me needs to be my best friend and the person I can hang out with. But I think what I realized through all of this, is the guy I’m friends with — the funny guy who is quirky and the center of attention, aka Frank — that’s not necessarily the guy I need to be with. I can surround myself with friends like that, and then the man who I need to be with is the rock who is there for me after a hard day of work, that I can come home to. What I need in a social setting is not what I need in a husband.
Buzz: Well, we know Frank is out, but there are conflicting rumors saying that you’re single or that you’re engaged and already planning your wedding! Has it been difficult to keep the real outcome a secret?
AF: I’m good at keeping secrets, so it’s been OK. But it is really hard in the sense that I don’t want to keep in the secret! I just want to be like, ‘You’re wrong, you’re wrong, you’re kind of right but wrong.’ I just want everything out there, so I can talk about it and live my life whether I’m a single woman or whether I’m happily engaged.
Buzz: So, I take it you’re happy with your decision?
AF: I’m so happy with my decision. I wouldn’t change anything!
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